Ok, so the title can be misleading. I can tell you how I am enjoying the life I’ve been given, but I can’t really tell YOU how to do that in your own life. That’s up to you to decide if you want to do that or not.
So how do I enjoy the life I’ve been given? Even when it’s not “ideal” or going my way? Well, first off – I stop comparing my life to others. You never know what’s going on with them.
This is a hard one for me. Sometimes I see others who appear to have no financial worries in the world, and I get frustrated. Why can’t we be like that? Why can’t our financial life just fall into place? I want to be able to go grocery shopping without looking at prices and worrying about going over the super small budget we have. I don’t want to be careless with our money, I just want to be able to breathe a little.
Then I see how amazing our life is, even with limited finances. We have so much we can do around our area (especially in the summer) for free! There are unlimited numbers of parks and playgrounds. There are Farmer’s Markets to go to. There are FREE splash pads for the summer months. We are blessed in that we do have food to eat, a home to sleep and live in and enough clothes as well.
Sometimes I compare my marriage to others – maybe they don’t seem to ever fight. They seem to always be so in love. How do they do that? Do they fight? How do they fight? Because my husband and I have “discussions” and sometimes it is frustrating. Mainly because I don’t like fighting. I don’t like arguing. And sometimes, I think that if we’re arguing, then we must be doing something wrong.
HOWEVER – I remind myself that you don’t know what happens behind closed doors for other couples. They may be putting on a front and really don’t get along. My husband and I do have a great marriage. We argue and bicker, but that’s because we’re two different people. We were raised in great families with great values, but that doesn’t mean we were raised identical. So we have different viewpoints on quite a few things. I’m always right, but he refuses to admit it. 😉 My husband is quick to apologize when he’s wrong and quick to forgive me when I am wrong. When I think about it, I believe it would be a very fake marriage if we always agreed. The good thing is that when we do argue, at least I know where my husband REALLY stands on issues and topics. That’s a great tool to understanding him more!
Then I can get superficial – I see how other women look. And I wonder why I can’t look like them – with perfect legs, tight abs and hair that doesn’t need the maintenance mine does.
BUT I remind myself that I have no idea about these women – they have insecurities as well. My insecurities are mainly my legs. I’ve had spider veins since I was about 13. And I have very muscular legs. My legs won’t ever be thin and lean, because of my genetics. They will be, however, toned and athletic. Which is a great thing – right? 🙂
My hair may need a lot of attention when first washed (I either need to blow dry it and then straighten it OR let it air dry, but with product in it so it’s curly and not frizzy), but at least I have hair. It’s all natural, no coloring (there are definitely more grays though…) and is healthy. It just takes some work, that’s all.
As for my stomach – I could probably have flat abs, if I stopped eating all the stuff I bake. Just saying…but I also like to bake sooooo, that probably won’t happen. 😉
There are many things that I struggle with, when it comes to comparing my life to others sometimes. But the great news is that I’m reminded that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and I’m living the life God has designed for me.
So I will take every moment I can to enjoy it. Walks at the local park, taking our son to the playground and watching him run around with excitement and energy.
There was a parade yesterday, right outside our home, and we watching it with Z – he loved it. He was filling his bucket with as much candy as they would throw to him (bye-bye flat abs for me – since he CLEARLY can’t eat all that candy) and just so excited to be watching the parade.
There are many things in my life that are beyond ideal – they are blessings and I appreciate them all. I have an amazing husband and son and I know that this is where God wants me to be. So I will enjoy the life I’ve been given. I will take advantage of every opportunity thrown my way and realize I am so very blessed!